Guardians of the Heart (October)

A Model of Wellness for Relationships: An Exploration of Love and the Immune System

The Epigenetic Language of Love in the Autumn

Just like we transfer stress hormones for up to five generations from ancestors who have been in concentration camps, we also transfer the intimate language of love. We come into relationships with an opportunity to play out our epigenetic misery or coauthor healthy longevity. Often, this intimate language of love is tainted, inadvertently or "for our own good" by parents and other cultural editors who teach us what I call the archetypal wounds. These acquired lessons are ways of punishing, admonishing, or teaching based on patterns of abandonment, shame, and betrayal. Consequently, these punitive lessons become a language of love, that although we intellectually tell ourselves this is not how we are going to be, we enact the dysfunctional language fluently when love comes our way. Then when…