From False Humility to Humble Brilliance

If you could be profoundly honest with yourself and overcome your fear of being misunderstood, you could accept your brilliance when others see it in you. But to acknowledge stellar compliments without false humility, you have to find evidence in deeds that confirm your nobleness.

Before you step into your excellence however, let's look at how you were taught what I call pseudo-humbleness: a double message from the tribe that teaches you to excel and simultaneously deny it to yourself and when others praise you.


Examples:

Coauthor: "I love your hair."

Pseudo-Humbleness: "Oh, I haven't washed it in three days!"


Coauthor: "You're excellent in math."

Pseudo-Humbleness: "I just study very hard. Anybody can do it."


Coauthor: "I love your new car."

Pseudo-Humbleness: "Well, I had to get it because my other car was too old."